Who Are You Now That You’re a Mom?

Do You Ever Wonder Who You Are Now That You’re a Mom?

You probably had a pretty good grasp of who you were as a human being prior to having children. You were used to thinking about your self as part of a couple or as a career person or an artist or athlete. And then you went and had a baby (or two, or three)…and everything changed.

You became a mom and your role in the world and your self-image shifted. All of a sudden that identity that felt so solid is gone and now you feel like this “mom” role is all consuming. You’re trying to rethink your identity and wondering if there is still a “me” in there and you wonder, “Who is that “me” now? “Who am I now that I’m a mother?” Some days you may even feel like there is no room for you.

Having kids profoundly changes your life. You love your little one(s) more than anything. But sometimes you just can’t shake the feeling that somehow along the way in this motherhood journey you’ve lost a piece of your self. And, it’s taking a toll. You’re a bit more irritable than you used to be, you don’t laugh as much anymore, life just doesn’t feel as fun as it used to….

You may often feel isolated in your experience as a mom and yearn for community, connectedness, and to feel good at doing something again. You want to feel a sense of competence outside of motherhood.

That’s what this blog is going to be talking about. It’s about the titles we carry; our hopes, wishes and dreams; what it means to be a mom in our society; how we’re redefining our identity; our choices and decisions; how we need to push ourselves to live fully and experience life now, today – not someday. It’s about our joy and frustrations; our parenting and our relationships; our selflessness and our selfishness; our fatigue and our energy.

The women before us apparently paved the way and this has caused us to expect that we’d be able to have it all – great career, fabulous relationship, 2.2 kids, and it would all be accomplished with ease. Yet many of us feel frustrated.

If this speaks to you at all, on any level, please leave me a comment